What is elder abuse?

If you are being hit, kicked, slapped, threatened, made to feel bad or stupid, isolated from friends and family, coerced or forced into sexual activity, financially exploited,or prevented from getting a job or from having access to money, you are being abused.

Anyone can be an abuser: spouse, partner, child, caretaker, companion, lover or friend. If you are being abused, you may feel frightened, ashamed, sad, worthless, that you deserve to be hurt, or that you must stay with your abuser.

"This is how it has always been."

Many abused adults don't think anything is wrong. You may have always thought that spouses or partners had the right to abuse you. You have the right to live without violence. There are people willing to listen and support you. YOU CAN GET HELP.

"My partner only abuses me after drinking or taking drugs."

Substance abuse doesn't cause violence, but many abusers use it as an excuse. Without help, drinking and drug abuse only gets worse, and so will the violence.

"The abuse started only recently. Maybe it will just stop."

Many excuses are used for battering or abuse including illness, financial issues or use of alcohol and drugs. The one thing that is certain is that, without help, the abuse will continue, and possibly escalate.

"I'm not quite ready to make the change."

If you are not ready to ask for help, there are still ways to protect yourself:


What kind of help can I get? Where do I get it?

There are a number of agencies that can assist you, including our crisis center. Types of services you can receive include:


Personalized Safety Plan

Suggestions for increasing safety in the relationship:


Additional resources